[the hodown]: Frequently Asked Questions

Here's a list of frequently asked questions concerning The HoDown. It's separated by the tabs/topics at the top of the website.

General Questions

What is The HoDown? The HoDown is an adult event. We have two different types of events, All-Male and CoEd. All-Male events are for men who are interested in having fun with other men and only men are allowed. CoEd events are for everyone, regardless of gender or sexual identification/preference.

What happens at The HoDown? Activities include but are not limited to drinking, networking, sexual acts, and more!
How many come? What's the turnout? The turnout is ever changing. It could be lower or higher. It can be diverse or not diverse. It could be mixed ages or closer to one age over another or just split. YOU are the turnout. YOU make the event. We invite hundreds to each event, both All-Male and CoEd. Our capacity is 45. Each party will have a different turnout because the contact list is diverse. The best option for you is to come see for yourself!
What do I need to bring? Bring yourself, your sex drive, an open mind and whatever materials you feel like you need to enjoy yourself. The basics are provided. Bring your own poppers!
What if I come and nobody is interested in me? We invite a variety of people to our parties. Everyone has different tastes, so it's a gamble everyone takes but most people end up winning. There are no guarantees in random attendance parties. With that said, good luck!
Are poppers acceptable at the party? Yes, poppers are allowed at the party. Please be mindful they are very strong and other people may be bothered by the smell. Poppers are not supplied, bring your own!
Can I get Gang Banged there? I want BIG dick! We invite and gather guests to attend. It's on you to fulfill your fantasies and desires once you arrive. We will assist you if we can, once you arrive!
Can I just watch? Participation in our events once you're here is optional. However, imagine this... what if 20 people came to a party and all 20 wanted to watch? What sort of party is that? A whack one! It's suggested you come to the events ready to mingle and play. If you want to watch people fuck, respectfully... watch porn at home!
What happens if I pay online and an event is canceled? We use the Luma platform to process all card payments. We will issue a refund to any and all guests who have paid in advance, no questions asked. Refunds may take up to 5-7 business days to be returned to your original payment method, but usually are processed in 1-3 business days. If the refund goes to a canceled or expired card, the attendee will need to to contact their bank or credit card company for help.
Is this a discreet/DL party? The HoDown respects the privacy and discretion of each guest. To the type of people that attend each event, that question can't be answered. We don't know who will be in attendance until they walk through the door. You may find people wearing masks to protect their identity, you might not!
What is the turnout like? It's a different crowd at each event. New people are consistently and constantly being added and removed from our invitation list. This makes each turnout different than the last, because of the consistent addition of fresh interested individuals.

Location

Where is The HoDown? This is a New Jersey party that's currently hosted in Elizabeth, NJ. You may see HoDown sponsored events in other places, but the name HoDown is a Jersey Household Name!
Are you located in a safe area? We make the best efforts in selecting safe locations and residences for our events. Please ALWAYS be mindful of your surroundings in any area!
Is there parking? Currently, the Elizabeth location does not have designated parking. It has been shared that people use the Forman Mills parking lot, Advance Auto parking lot, and Walgreens parking lot. We do not suggest you use these lots as they are all private property. We are NOT responsible for any towing or vehicle safety.
Can I get there by train or bus? We are currently located between the North Elizabeth train station (7-10 min walk) and the Elizabeth train station (15-20 min walk). The North Jersey Coast Line and Northeast Corridor Line stops in both of those stations. The closest hub for connecting trains is Newark Penn Station. NJ Transit busses 112 and 113 drop you off 2-4 blocks away and come from NY port authority Bus Terminal and serve Central NJ area. Local NJ Transit busses 59 and 24 drop you 1-2 blocks away and serve North/Central NJ areas.

Price

How much is this party? Pricing details may change over time. Please visit the PRICE section of our website for current pricing details.
How do I get a refund? There are NO refunds given unless a party is canceled AND you paid before the party was canceled.
Can I try The HoDown out for free? NOPE!!! Everyone pays, every time. This is fair treatment and there's no favoritism regardless of any factors you feel are relevant. Promoters and staff are the only ones who get in for free!
Where do I keep my money if I want to purchase food? The BEST option is to pay for drinks when you're checking in. We'll give you drink/food tickets that you will give to the bartender. The 2nd best option is to wear a smartwatch so you can tap and go. 3rd best option is for you to keep a card in your sock and you'd do the same tap and go action. The least favorable option is for you to bring $5 bills and you pay as you go with cash. Keep any and all small personal belongings with you in your sock. You are encouraged to wear long socks!
Are there any discounts? Each person pays the same price or has the SAME opportunity to any discount available to everyone. There are no deals, coupons, or special pricing. This makes it fair for everyone. Guests who attend may receive a discount or special pricing under unique circumstances determined by the host. Gotta show up for any chance or possibility for any discounts?

Rules

Why is the dress code the way it is? The dress code is the dress code to reduce delays in personal interaction. It applies to everyone. No special treatment.
Do I have to get naked? Each event has different dress code rules. If you decide to attend that event, you are agreeing to comply with the dress code and any other rules associated with that event. You will find any specific dress code rules in each event description AND in the invitation you receive.
Can I wear a mask? Yes, you may wear a mask. Food for thought, nobody wears masks. Masks are off-putting and discourage interactions in group events. Yea, you could wear your mask, but you might be left alone also.
Why can't I have my cell phone? Phones and watch lights disrupt the vibe of the party. You're there to interact with each other, not utilize a phone. If you have cell phone detachment issues, STAY HOME!
Can I be videotaped/recorded? Absolutely NOT! No phones are allowed in any event. There may be an event in the future that may allow phones along with a consent of phone etiquette. In the event of this, guests will be clearly alerted and notified of this change.
Is this a RAW party? The HoDown is proud to welcome those who love condom use and those who don't. Please respect each other's preferences and ask before you insert!
Can I smoke? Tina? Ciggs? Vapes are allowed. You may vape your weed and nicotine products at your leisure. You cannot smoke anything that involves a flame at any party or use any illegal substances, pills, liquids! You will be put out without warning or 2nd chances. ZERO TOLERANCE. Do your business BEFORE or AFTER the party. No, you may not exit any party to smoke. All exits are final!
Are Poppers allowed? Poppers are allowed! You MUST bring your own! we do NOT supply them!

Amenities

What if I'm allergic to latex? Non-latex condoms are available for your use!
Do you have large/xl condoms? Yes! They are available upon request
Can I take a shower? We prefer you to shower before you arrive. Show up ready for action! Towels are in limited supply. Shower soaps are located in the shower on the shelves.
Why can't I drink in the Dark Room(s)? Drinks are spilled and knocked over because you can't see them. Please drink your drinks in brighter-lit areas. Do NOT throw away your cup! Our cups are restaurant-grade reusable plastic cups.
Why can't I make my own drink? There has been a great deal of drunkenness and alcohol misuse. It's a sex party, not the corner pub. Come back for more but don't get drunk!
How Much Are Drinks? $5 We have a Top-Shelf bar that offers of 25 premium choices of brands you love! We have signature cocktails for fan favorites. We use bar standard sized cups to make sure you get the same treatment you would in a bar or club. We also have THC-Infused Cocktail inspired High Shots! There's also beer, wine, & Red Bull. Everything $5! The drinks are tasty, strong and will have you wanting more! See the selection in the Drinks section of our website.
Are There Food and Snacks? Yes! Also... $5! They are freshly make to order. See the selection in the HoDown Shoppe section of our website.
What kind of music is played? There are different types of playlists and radio stations played for a variety of sounds and to muffle sex noises.

Invitation

I stopped receiving invitations, how do I get back on the list? First, visit the Partiful help page to do some troubleshooting steps:
https://help.partiful.com/hc/en-us/articles/11974255411355-I-m-not-getting-Partiful-texts-anymore-how-do-I-reenable-them
Afterwards, if you are still having issues, you will need to request a new invitation link to rejoin the list. Please be aware, if you have not completed the 1st step, the 2nd step WILL NOT WORK! If there's a technical error, you need to submit a different email/cell number. Google Voice is a great free option.
Why must I send face and body pics? This is to verify the person attending is within the parameters of the party standard. Also, those who are banned/unwelcome are filtered out.
What do you do with the pic(s) I send you? The forms that have your pics are periodically deleted to make room for more forms. Forms are then downloaded for reference purposes.
How many usually attend? Attendance amounts vary, and different venues may hold more than others. We do not give out any attendance numbers as it's a security issue. The parties are well attended, but we can't guarantee any type of attendance, as you are the ones who must show up! We'll worry about the invitations, you worry about attending!
What kind of people are invited? Guests of every race are invited. We target the average-joe type body to fit bodies. We look for youthful looks with an age APPEARANCE of 18-45 years old. There's no specific age cap, size cap or the like. Sexy is Sexy! We aim to keep it universally sexy to satisfy the masses. Do not be offended or put down in any way if you are not approved. You are sexy to someone!
Where do people travel from? Guests from the New Jersey, New York, Delaware, Pennsylvania areas are invited and they attend. It's not just local guys. You might even find those who are traveling from even farther away!
Can I bring my friends? Guests are welcome! It would be great if your guests requested their own invitation for the sake of being well informed, but it isn't necessary.
Is there an age limit? We aim to keep most parties with guests who APPEAR to be 18-45 years old. Age isn't the final factor. Your looks, appearance, and attitude are deciding factors. Don't take offense if you aren't approved! Request an invitation for consideration.
When should I leave/arrive? The earlier you arrive the better!!! You are welcome to leave at any time you wish. The best time is within the 1st hour to maximize your exposure to a great event.
Are handicapped guests welcome? Yes, handicapped guests are welcome but please be aware that people can be mean and cruel. Do not put yourself in a position and situation you can't handle. Also, the location may not be greatly accessible for your particular handicap. The event is NOT wheel chair accessible!

Contact Us

I sent a text message, why did nobody respond? The contact phone number provided is for guests to use to call when they are ready to walk through the doors and enter the party. It's a waste of time and a distraction to answer texts from those that cannot follow instructions. DO NOT TEXT THE CONTACT NUMBER!!!

I called the number when I was there and nobody answered, why? What happened? You either probably called before OR after the announced party time or arrival time. You could have called the wrong number also! We do not accept calls from blocked numbers. If the website hasn't canceled the party, we simply missed the phone call. Please call back.
Why does the host always reference www.the-hodown.com? There are a large number of people who are curious, want to attend or already attending. Having a single place for ALL information is the best way to ensure everyone has the same information. Yes, it's annoying to be told to visit the website, but it's done so you don't need to wait for information and answers to your questions. By updating yourself, it frees up time for us to invite more people to join you at the party. Plus, it makes Fuzzy's heart so warm to hear you took the initiative!