Frequently Asked Questions

Here is a list of frequently asked questions about The HoDown. If you don't see your question answered in the website, or in this section please submit your question below in the comments section and I will answer it. Thank You
  1. What is The HoDown?  The HoDown is a sex party hosted in Elizabeth, NJ for gay, bi and curious guys.
  2. What happens at The HoDown? Activities include but are not limited to drinking, networking, oral and anal sex.
  3. What kind of people are invited? Guys who are sexy, freaky who like safe sex. NO WOMEN ALLOWED!
  4. I'm Bi, will there be women there? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!
  5. Can I bring my friends?  Yes of course! You are encouraged to bring your friends and they do not need separate approval. If you bring guests with you, they need to fit the mold or be turned away. 
  6.  What do I need to bring?  You don't need to bring anything! all the basics are provided. If you'd like something specific that you feel will not be provided, by all means bring it! 
  7. It's my 1st time coming, can I get in for free?  NO!!! We give everyone the same treatment. If 1st timers got in free there'd be a line out the door and down the block.
  8. What is the best day to come?  As of right now, there is only one party day, Saturday. We expect that every saturday will be hot, so come and invite with the same expectation!
  9. What if I come and nobody is interested in me?  We aim to keep a variety of men at our party through invitation and your word of mouth by marketing to many races, looks, body styles and personalities. Unfortunately, attendance is not guaranteed and every party has a different turnout. We don't know if what you're interested in will be here. It's random and we apologize if it doesn't work out for you.
  10. Is there an age limit?  Age isn't the first thing looked at, your looks, appearance and attitude gets you here. If you can keep up with the rest and serve as good eye candy to be sucked on and played with, by all means come thru! We judge your sexy so don't take offense if you are denied! If you have any doubts, send current and clear face and body pics to for your approval.
  11. Do you supply drinks? Yes, alcoholic and non-alcoholic. See the DRINKS section of the website for details.
  12. Are poppers acceptable at the party?  Yes, poppers are allowed at the party. Please be mindful they are very strong and other people may be bothered by the smell. Poppers are not supplied, bring your own!
  13. If there are no cell phones allowed, how do I call to get in?  You need your cell phone to call when you arrive to the building. Further directions will be given upon arrival. You leave your cell phone in the bag with your clothes and the rest of your belongings. There are no cell phones allowed in party area. Your phone will be confiscated and placed with your belongings if you try to get slick and you get caught. Don't like it? There's always the door (don't be afraid to use it)
  14. Do I have to get naked?  No you don't. You're required to strip down to at most an A-Shirt (urbanly called a wife beater) and boxers, briefs, thong, g-string, jock strap, trunk or boxer brief. If it's not underwear it's not permissible.
  15. When can I leave? Do I have to stay till the end of the party?  You are welcome to leave at any time you wish. You are NOT held hostage for any reason.
  16. Can I get Gang Banged there?  You can do whatever is consensual here. Turnout and participation is not guaranteed, but once you are here, you can personally select and proposition whom is available to gang-bang you.
  17. Can I be videotaped/recorded?  No! We are fans of exploring fantasies and the freakier side of life, but videotaping/recording would defeat the purpose of being a private party. So, again, no cameras, cell phones or any other electronic device.
  18. I live far away, how can I get there?  Elizabeth is local to New York, Staten Island being less than 30 mins away. The Location of the party is 4-5 blocks from the North Elizabeth train station and about 9 blocks from Elizabeth train stain. Both train stations directly serve Manhattan, Trenton and Long Branch NJTransit train lines, with extensions to Philadelphia.
  19. Why can't I smoke cigarettes?  The leasee of the apartment is a non smoker and does not want smoking of any kind in the apartment. 
  20. What kind of music is played?  House, hip-hop, R&B, techno, and more.
  21. Do you or will you have a daytime party?  Yes, please see the party schedule for more info and the main Hodown page for details.
  22. Will you have parties in any place besides Elizabeth, NJ?  Parties are hosted in Elizabeth, NJ. Any changes to this will be found in the UPDATES & CHANGES section on the website. 
  23. Why do I have to show you my face and body pics?  The party does need to stay some level of sexy and there needs to be regulation to keep that standard. In most cases people get approved. If you don't wish to send a face and body pic, YOU DON'T NEED TO COME!
  24. What do you do with the pic I send you?  Your pic is reviewed and deleted after adding you to the contact list.
  25. I stopped receiving emails and text messages, how do I get back on the list? Provide a current and active email address and/or cell phone number along with the old contact info to be updated.
  26. I stopped getting emails from, why?  Your emails could be going to your spam folder. If not, please email us and update your information. 
  27. Are handicapped guys welcome?  Yes, handicapped guys are welcome but please be aware that people can be mean and cruel. Do not put yourself in a position and situation you can't handle. Wheel chairs are NOT allowed.
  28. How many guys come thru per night?  You may check the STATISTICS section of the website for attendance info. 
  29. Are you located in a safe area? Yes, its in a quiet decently lit area on North Broad Street in Elizabeth, NJ. It's a safe walk from buses and trains. Please be mindful of your surroundings!
  30. Why do I need to give you my email and/or cell number?  Information is sent out via text and email via to ensure that all of our guests get the same information at the same time. You are sent a confirmation text/email before you are added to the list to ensure you are fully aware of the party that you said you wish to attend. If at any time you wish to remove yourself from any list, you simply need to email "" requesting to be removed and we will remove you between 24 and 48 hours of your request. 
  31. What is the difference between the Elizabeth HoDown and The HoDown Revamped?  The revamped HoDown is a more inclusive HoDown geared for better parties with higher turnouts in a larger space. 
  32. I sent a text message, why did nobody respond?  Phone numbers are used for sending information out not having conversation. Party progress isn't shared with anyone, don't ask! If you need to ask any questions about this party, questions which are not answered here already, send an email to or message the host on KIK "thehodown" and wait for a response. BE WARNED, you don't read the website and you email us on some foolish stuff you will get a possibly rude response. Take the time and read, we've separated the website into categories to make it easy to navigate, as well as provided a search bar on the right.
  33. I called the number when I was there and nobody answered, why? What happened?  You either probably called before the announced party time, called the wrong number, called from a blocked number or we simply missed the phone call. Just evaluate your circumstance and call again...
  34. I just want to make sure this place wont be busted by the cops. Is it legal Steps have been made to ensure the safety of the guys who come. The attendance list, email and cell phone roster, aid in this as well as your own cooperation.
  35. Can I use drugs?  Drugs add a different element to the party and may offend others in addition to placing yourself at risk. Avoid drug use or do your drugs BEFORE you get here. Any issues regarding suspected drug use in the party, or scenes and instances resulting from drug use, will result in your immediate removal and you will be banned!
  36. Is this a discreet/DL party?  That question can't be answered because the crowd is different at every party. Fem guys aren't invited by the host or any promoters. However, since you are allowed to bring guests, things happen! 
  37. Is this a Raw party?  The HoDown has always promoted safe sex and sexual acts. You can fuck raw here and barebackers are welcome. Raw is not a requirement. Condoms and lube are still supplied and their use is encouraged!